Consent. Sexual Assault. The line is so blurry…I mean, it is just so inconvenient to get consent these days. Ensuring your partner actually wants to have sex with you is a real mood killer! So long as the object of your desire is awake and not screaming in protest, do you really have to ask?
YES. The answer is YES. You have to ask before you kiss someone, you have to ask before removing clothing, and you definitely have to ask before you pull out your penis. You have to ask for consent each step of the way, and you have to receive explicit consent before proceeding.
Let’s define explicit consent: “Yes.” Other examples of explicit consent include “hell yes,” “yes, that sounds awesome,” “oh yes, let’s totally do that,” and “Yes, I want to have sex with you too!”
Now let’s define what doesn’t constitute explicit consent: ANYTHING that is not “Yes.” Examples include (but are not limited to):
- "Maybe” or “I’m not sure”
- “Let’s slow down”
- “I just want to cuddle”
- Coerced ‘consent’
- “No” or “Stop”
And here are the only two facts you need to know about the relationship between alcohol and sex: 1.) Alcohol makes people horny. 2.) Maryland State Law doesn’t give a fuck—if you have sex with an intoxicated person, you can be charged with sexual assault.
Quick trick for evaluating if someone is too drunk to consent:
If you are questioning whether or not someone is too drunk to consent, then they are too drunk to consent. Boom. See how easy that was?
Now go forth and have safe, awesome, consensual sex!